Past, present and future orientations

Hi Everyone,
Well this week it was my turn to take a leaf out of my own book and think about taking that summer vacation we all need so desperately, and that I was advocatig for us all in the last newsletters!
Speaking to a friend on Monday night we both decided we needed a break and by Tuesday lunch time the deed was done and the holidays booked, house sitters sorted, dog booked into kennels, and currency ordered. Now there is just that lovely period of anticipation waiting for the holiday to come. Planning all the lovely things we will do, the clothes I will need to buy, imagining all the interesting people I will meet and ....... oh the list could go on and on!
I think for me the anticipation and excitement is the best part, I am very future orientated, I live my life in full anticipation of how good things will be in the future when I have...... but that got me thinking about some of my clients and thinking about how so often some of them are stuck in their past, reflecting and going over past events, thinking if only... that they miss out on the present possibilities of what they could be enjoying now. Life is too short to be filled with regrets and to spend time musing about lost opportunities but the danger for me in being future orientated is that I am in danger of missing out on the here and now. I am so busy anticipating my holidays that I might miss the lovely things that are happening right now under my nose!
In my work with clients it is important to find out where and how they live their lives to ensure they get the most out of the opportunities being made available to them. It is important to get a balance between all three areas and not be so entrenched in one area to the detriment of the others. If we fail to spend any time in our past orientation then we fail to gain all the benefit we could from reflecting on what we did, what we felt about it and what we learned from the process, if we are too engrossed in the present we might fail to identify new opportunities on the horizon and if we are too future orientated life will just pass us by and we will be left wondering what happened along the way as we sit quietly at the end of our lives only then having the time to really reflect on how things were along the way!

So I guess my message is take each day as it comes, enjoy the moment, reflect on things completed and done but do not dwell needlessly on lost opportunities or you may miss the next batch as they come along.

I have a special offer on personal coaching sessions at the moment, just for the month of August, contact me now to hear more. This offer cant last long and once the places have all been taken up prices will revert to their usual rates. If you book and pay for 4 sessions in advance you can have them for the price of three! How about that for a summer bargain!